The ways of dating have drastically changed throughout the years, but the question still remains – has dating changed for the better?
Gone are the days of endless romance and throwing rocks at your crush’s window. Nowadays, the closest thing there is to romantically throwing a rock at someone’s window, is “swiping right” on them on Tinder. The popularity of online “dating” has undeniably grown – especially in the past few years. I say “dating” because not everyone on these sites is actually looking to actively date, but instead just looking for a… “fun time”. Regardless of the stereotypes that come along with these sites and apps, it is without doubt that online dating has now almost entirely taken over the traditional dating world. If you haven’t used online “dating” yourself, you probably (more like definitely) know people who have. Granted, in every big movement, there are always “stragglers” who initially resist the movement entirely. In the case of online dating sites, these “stragglers” are people who just simply can’t wrap their minds around how an online-based relationship could possibly work and therefore are against the sites entirely. (Can you blame them? Real life dating is already hard enough!) But as the saying goes – if you can’t beat them, join them. After all, we have to look at the facts. Technology has become a huge part of our lives in the past decade. In a society where you can easily order your food, buy an apartment, re-sell your clothes, and find out everything there is to know about almost anybody, all because of technology and online search engines – is anyone really that surprised that we’ve also started to date online?
So, what’s the consensus? Weighing both the pros and the cons of online dating sites/apps, the only consensus is that it all depends on the person. If you’re trendy and open enough to the idea, online dating just might work for you. If you’re more of a traditionalist, meeting people the old fashioned way might seem more appealing. Both options can be successful. However, it is important to keep in mind that online dating may take away some of the romance, as well as some of the famously noted “spark” that people look for when first meeting someone. As long as you understand that and are willing to work hard at keeping your online-romance alive, you should be okay. Though I often see myself as more of a traditionalist when it comes to dating – it is important to do whatever works best for you.